Co-sleeping, bed-sharing, or sleep-sharing.

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Last night, I decided to put Victoire in her own bed, in her own room. I am not sure what triggered the decision – she was starting to fuss and I wasn’t ready to go to sleep but didn’t want to leave my bedroom either (Daddy was away) so I thought: “mon beau chat*”, tonight is the night. You are going to sleep by yourself, like a big girl. I kissed her and wished her goodnight. I left the room and felt sick to my stomach. I wasn’t enjoying not having her with me – as we always do. I felt incomplete. I missed her. I went back. Picked her up. And we had a very good night sleep.

I realize that I am not ready to part with her – exclusively breastfeeding her has created a bond so strong that I feel I can’t let go of her for too long. But I need to find a happy medium, I would like to spend some time with my husband and just cuddle, and dream together without a squirmy little individual in between us.

If you have any experience co-sleeping and would like to share tips or “I hear you” type of thoughts and feelings, I am all ears. Especially if you have experience breastfeeding without co-sleeping! I am not even sure that it is what I want. I just know I need to find a better way of balancing one-on-one time with my husband (or myself for that matter, sometimes, I just want time alone) and cuddly-time with baby.

*I nicknamed her my pretty cat.

Sleepless Nights

She slept through! After almost two weeks of waking up to play for some nights up to three hours a night, Sixtine slept through the night. I can’t tell you how exhausting those past two weeks have been…I was starting to lose it. Literally! Let’s hope it lasts!

The (Magic) Soother

…or the day I thought to myself: “I am scre*** !”.

– Hi. My name is Deb and my daughter uses a pacifier.

HI DEB !

When my daughter was born, she would stay on the breast for long hours, sucking on without discontinuing for the sake of sucking. It was really hard on me so we decided to use a pacifier to give me a break. She never really enjoyed her soother, except for bedtimes. So we only give her the pacifier when she goes to sleep (naps and bedtimes). I always wanted to use the hospital-type ones. However, when we started using one, I had free sample ones from NUK. So we went with that. A few months later, I decided to replace them for hygienic reasons. With the hospital-type ones. It took me a while to find them and I was pretty excited. FAIL. She hated them. So we kept using the two she liked until a couple days ago. I decided to get two more of the exact same kind she liked (NUK orthodontic pacifier) for back up. FAIL. She hates them.

Now, we are only relying on our two 4 month-old NUK pacifiers and I am starting to fear for my life sanity. I am going to try to wean her from the pacifier during daytime to start with. And pray that this magic soother of hers stays nice and put.

Any suggestions will be most welcomed.

How to Cope with Fatigue or how I became addicted to Red Bull

Hi, My name is Deb and I am a Red Bull addict.

My last episode of Red Bull addiction dates back to university. I was working, living the life and studying a lot. My body on its own couldn’t handle it so I needed something to help. This is when I started drinking The Drink. I would either have one when I had long essays to write, to help me think straight despite the extreme fatigue I was suffering from or I would get one to help me stay up late enough to go party on the weekends. I realized pretty quickly that it wasn’t good for me. I would be very alert for a bit and suddenly feeling more exhausted than I ever was. My heart would beat faster than normal and I would feel sick. I stopped drinking it for those reasons. It didn’t make me feel good.

But I didn’t learn my lesson. As soon as I stopped breastfeeding, I started drinking it again. And man ! I really shouldn’t. Red Bull is not good for me. Red Bull is not good for me. Red Bull is not good for me.

So, please, dear blog reader, help me. What are other (healthy !) ways of coping with fatigue? Does Red Bull have any effect on you?

On The Sleeping Scene

When we brought our daughter home from the hospital, we decided to co-sleep with her as it was easier for me. I was exhausted and having her by my side while I was breastfeeding was our best option at the time. Long story short, I stopped breastfeeding and my husband was able to help with the feedings but after a month and a half, I started to feel overwhelmed. I couldn’t do anything as my daughter was only happy in my arms, on my chest or her father’s. I couldn’t rest, and I couldn’t get anything done.

So one night, I decided that was the end of it. My daughter would sleep in her own bed, in her own room. We bought a set of three baby monitors and when my husband was away for a couple days, I started “sleep training” her (I am not talking about sleeping through the night here – she still needed to eat every 3 to 4 hours). The first night was really hard for both of us. She was missing me, I was missing her and I felt guilty. After about an hour, I took her back with me. The second night, I waited three hours. And she was less unhappy about it than the night before. The third day she made very little noise and seemed ok with the idea. After a week: the “sleep training” was over. I missed her at first but got used to sleep better very quickly !

About a month ago, I started to space out the feedings by putting her soother back in her mouth instead of feeding her. 15 minutes the first time, then 30…and so on.

Now, she usually goes to bed at 8.30pm and won’t wake up until 5 or 6am in the morning. She does wake up some time during the night, but it is rare enough. She has been a bit off lately – teething ! – and her routine has been a little different but she slept from 8.30pm last night to 9am this morning. I was on duty for early feeding this time and didn’t have to wake up early ! Haha !

I am hoping that this post won’t turn against me and make my baby girl a night owl…I know that sleeping routines are not set in stones, especially at such early age (growth spurt, teething, etc) but I will do my best to make it easy for everyone. She seems to enjoy life much better after a good night sleep, just like we do !

How about you and your little one(s)? Have you tried co-sleeping? Did it work for you? Do you have any advice for other parents?